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I Was Almost Raped Tonight Running Alone At The Beach

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And I’ve heard two rape stories in Sihanoukville, one a girl, alone, and one a young man, strong and in shape, but I guess if you’re jumped by five guys it doesn’t really matter if you’re in shape. Rape happens everywhere, so it’s not like where I am is more dangerous than any other place where you should not go jogging alone in the dark. And still, here I am alone, until the four guys ran after me….

Being raped was always one of my big fears. I want to say that it’s an irrational fear, unfounded on any reality or past experience of sexual abuse, but I just can’t say that. I don’t recall anything, nothing at all and I have no logical reason to think I was raped, but in therapy sessions, I kept having this feeling that someone very close to me did. But, I’ve learned, it does not matter if I was or I was not. What does matter is that I release whatever I need to and learn what I am meant to. That’s all.

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My name is Gabi Klaf and I welcome you with a huge hug to my online home. I am the wife of Kobi and the mother of three amazing children, who teach me joyfully (and sometimes painfully) everything I am meant to learn as a parent, as a soul, and as my own inner child.  This site is about our journey towards enlightenment, one step at a time. We find opportunities to reach enlightenment in lofty areas like learning, meditations, and reflection; and in the most Earthly, every day struggles like dealing with family dynamics, facing my own gremlins, and choosing how to drag myself out of the most painful moments of my life.

I’m honored that you are here. Following is my e-compass rose to guide you to the best content.

 Who Is Gabi Klaf?

Before you can learn from someone, you must know who they are. Do they speak your language? Do they vibrate at the frequency that your soul needs right now? Do they inspire you to take action (physically and spiritually) to reach your greatest self? This section will teach you who I am  and how I empower others to live life to the fullest. If you find my voice resonates with yours, only then can you consider taking me as your personal healthy family and life coach.

Part 1- My Addiction: Consumed by Desire 

A Mom Who Longs To Be

I’m Sexy And I Know It- Full of Myself and Spiritual

 Healthy Weight Loss & Lifestyle

I have been shy to speak of my losing 28 pounds, and I’m not sure why. I share everything (but, everything else) and yet my weight loss has remained very private, hidden. Maybe I’m just where I thought I always should have been, or maybe I’m still carrying loads of unresolved childhood weight issues, or maybe I wanted you to assume that I always looked this good. [All of the above.] So, here, slowly, I’m sharing my inspirational story of how I look younger, sexier, toner than I’ve ever been in my life. It is here I share HOW TO, constant inspirational tips and stories, and my ongoing YouTube saga of personal projects and challenges to help you reach and maintain your most-diva-est you.

Join Me On The Other Side- Looking Good Naked (Video)

The Road to Raw Food

Enlightened Inspiration and Appreciation

When our souls are appreciative; we can see, really see all the blessings around us. When inspired; we fully connect,  experience, and create in our lives. We live in joy and deep peace of mind. We want to surround ourselves with material that inspires our soul. These articles highlight the videos, photos, quotes, and words that have created this frequency in me, and in countless others.

Let’s Set The World On Fire

Music For The Soul

The Way to Enlightenment- Overcoming Ourselves

Make me wise, so that I may understand…. I ask for wisdom and strength, not to be superior to my brothers, but to be able to fight my greatest enemy, myself.- Ojibwa Prayer

The core of everything in our lives is us, and that silent conversation within ourselves. Every thought, dream, and fear; every magic moment, miscommunication, and heart-drenching disappointment radiates from how we  communicate to ourselves.  This determines how we will function, how we will overcome our flaws, and if and how we will triumph in our greatest challenges. This light also determines how we will connect with our families, work out disagreements, build relationships or push those we love away from us. Here, you will learn powerful family coaching tools, in addition to deeper reflective tools to create clean, healthy communication within and outwards.

I Was Almost Raped Tonight Running Alone At The Beach

Anatta- Releasing the “Me, Me, Me” Drama Story

Enlightened Parenting and Family Relations

It is our deepest desire to laugh, love, and bond with our family; and yet, we spend so much of our time frustrated, mad, and hurt by them. We could easily be enjoying a magic moment that instantly turns into hell, over absolutely nothing. (Sigh). Our family members are here to teach us many wonderful things.   In this section, we explore how to communicate, grow, learn, and become enlightened through our family relations. This section is a communication toolbox packed with what we can do, outside and within our souls, to make our family relations much more rewarding, effective, and respectful.  (Note: This is my all-time favorite picture. I look at her, and connect to a deep, quiet place; a place that I wish to be in when with my family)

How Not To Fight

Need to Destroy- Exhausted Mom Faces Her Violent Son

Five Ways To Live The Life You Believe In

Ten Critical Tools To Not Explode Back

 Enlightened Learning

All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I’m sure of that, and I intend to end up there.- Rumi

Education is meant to be an inspirational, on-going process guided by curiosity and light. Education takes place in the creases of a book, in the marketplace, and while watching a bird, a carpenter, or your grandmother do what she does best. We are destined to learn until our last breath. And, until that time, our job is to find books, people, situations, courses, and movies that fill our souls and challenge our minds. This section is about our learning  and our children’s learning. It is about sharing powerful learning, and overcoming  barriers that prevent learning from reaching is Highest Light.

Everybody Needs A Rock

Handling Our Own Anger- Advice From One Cool Dead Guy

Buddhism

In my 8 months in Cambodia, I wanted a teacher. I sought a monk, and found one, and dumped him. Determined to learn and know, I started a four-month intensive self-learning Buddhism Crash Course that ended up being more material than my Masters in Psychology. To push myself to greater heights and deeper understanding, I began teaching classes, three times a week in Buddhism and Meditation, often five minutes before my class. This is my self-study into Buddhism, which later graduates into my formal Vippasana Meditation Education. Buddhism has brought much clarity and maturity to my drama-queen-loving self. I know these ‘how to’ articles have brought great light to many. Read them slowly, and ask what you don’t get.

A Little Gift to You- The Four Noble Truths

Proven 10-Step Program to End Suffering- by Buddha Himself

Deep Calmness in 5 Minutes

Vippasana Meditation

As a family therapist, an energy healer, and a  person on my own pain-to-light journey who will continue to explore every module of healing that I believe can add to my arsenal of holistic healing tools, Vippasana blew me away. Shutting up for ten days was the easy part; What came up and out of me was an inferno of hell that nearly killed me. Vippasana Meditation Centers are all over the world, and free. I could not recommend a gift for your soul greater than this. Here I share with you the before, after, and how I struggle to maintain meditation as a regular part of my daily life.

Clueless- What Comes Up In Total Silence?

I Can Never Repay My Debt- Vippasana (Battambang, Cambodia)

Cuz You Haven’t Seen Me Shower Yet- The Great Neutralizer (Video)

The Ultimate Enlightenment- Energy, Light, and Self-Healing

Our bodies house our souls. If the container is sick, the soul will not have a safe home to sit in. If the soul is carrying pain, or our chakras are blocked; the body will follow suit and fall ill or lethargic from the energetic toxics within him. Clean Your Soul focuses on the mind/body/spirit connection and what we can do to maximize and take responsibility for us reaching our cleanest, healthiest, youngest, fully potential. This section gives us all the tools necessary to cure our selves and heal our pain. It focuses a great deal on my Clean Your Soul Interactive Work, which includes Buddhist Psychology, Family Coaching Principles, Energy Healing, NLP, and Removing Subconscious Sabotage.

The Little Toe- New Knowings About Who I Am

How To Love Myself- Part 1

Enlightened Engagement With Gabi

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And sometimes, still, we find that even the very best online articles, videos, and e-books are not enough. Sometimes, I need to see someone’s eyes; have someone listen, deeply; have someone there who can tell me exactly what I need to hear to help me take that next shaky step.  Sometimes, I need an objective, caring, professional to take my hand and lead me gently back to myself. If you are fed up with being stuck in your life and ready to take that next step, you can get direct one-on-one guidance from Gabi.

I provide limited one-on-one phone or Skype coaching/therapy to motivated clients willing to invest on creating the lives they want. It would be my greatest honor to help you overcome what is choking your soul, take the next steps necessary to overcome your pain, and reach the light you are meant to be bathed in.

It is my deepest hope that what you find here will inspire, enlighten, instruct, and strengthen you on your journey.

healthy weight loss, transformational coaching, energy healing, family life coach, holistic health, clean your soul, stop the pain

Gabi

 

How to Parent Out of Control Teens- Allusions, Throw Up, and Rejection – Part Three

Written by Gabi on . Posted in Parenting and Family Relations

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There are holes in my walls, we’ve already removed the doors, and a few windows are cracked. They are destroying not just me and each other but the physical house we live in as well.

So, last week, I left feeling hopeless and overwhelmed. This week, I feel that there is hope. I’m optimistic that I can do this.

I know now that I am not alone. That my teenager is not this huge failure, this monster that is all wrong. He is normal and we’ll get through this insane period of his life.

We’re doing amazing things. Learning together. Sharing the real stuff. No filters. Just real, raw parenting pain and mutual fumbling for answers. This week, we touched on another gorgeous list of deeply vital foundations for parents of teenagers. Here are the top issues broken down:

When Your Body Doesn’t Do What You Want It To- Mommy Tummy and Other Plumbing Frustrations- Part One

Written by Gabi on . Posted in Chronic Pain and Living Pain-Free, Healthy Weight Loss & Lifestyle, Overcoming Ourselves, Who Is Gabi Klaf?

So, you may know that my plumbing is all messed up. Well, actually, how would you, I’ve never talked about it. So, here’s the deal. Even before kids, but definitively worse since the birth of my last child, my entire digestive/excretion/stomach systems have been mis-wired, plugged up, and not flowing well. Yes, having children born in 2002, 2003, and 2004 may not have been the wisest choice for my sweet body. The only reason we didn’t have intended Baby #4 in 2005 was because of that one physician who thought the mess until my belly button from the umbilical hernia surgery may get intertwined and complicated with another immediate birth. The dear nurse in the hospital had no idea why we burst into laughter when she asked the date of my last period. Between births and breastfeeding, we had to count back years. In month 2 of pregnancy, I looked like month 9 cuz my stomach went, “Oh, I remember this!” and popped out so far that my sister-in-laws would laugh and say I’d need a tent by month 6. Yes, very funny, I know. But, it really was so pitiful all you could do was laugh.

Years after kids, I’d look seven months pregnant by the end of the day, and even worse when I had to go to the bathroom. I was constantly bloated and heavy every single night. So uncomfortable. The heaviness was tough, feeling that unattractive was tough, going to the bathroom was tough. I no longer could go to the bathroom in the regular way people go to the bathroom. I’ll spare you the details. Things overlapped, got tangled, and all messed up. I went to dieticians, gynecologists, and many experts that random people referred me to. I got prodded and poked in a million ways and got nothing. I remember years ago, actually, before I even had the kids, I sat down with this really big wig dietician and told him proudly that I don’t eat white bread or pasta, don’t drink coffee or cola, don’t, don’t, don’t and he writes this all down on his little pad (he was probably just doodling and trying to look engaged). He puts down his drawings, pulls his glasses to the very rim of his nose, and asks, “And you enjoy this form of living?” He dubbed me ‘Irregular Bowel Syndrome’ and charged me $200 for the visit. Thanks Doc.

The following is my journey through this entanglement towards clarity and solutions. Finally, solutions.

Learning of Rape Through The Massage Table- Overcoming What We Don’t Know

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I was raped. I’m sure of it, but not when. This life? Maybe, more likely not, but, some life, sometime, I was. I am sure of it. There are too many indicators that left me appalled by my own skin, inflicting abuse by picking scabs until I bled and couldn’t wear shorts my entire life, emotional eating episodes, unexplained repulsion and hiding my body under layers of cloth. Reasons, some I can personally recognize- he said this, she looked at me like that, and many more, I know my soul can spin many tales about. But regardless if yes or not, and when, it no longer bares the weight I carried with it all those years. It’s gone, gone, gone. [Deep breath of relief.]

This I only recently remembered, and looking at it, fascinates me like some eerily familiar case study of someone clearly separate from myself. I studied Humanology (formerly Neo-Psychology) for two years. The best way I can explain this eclectic science is a holistic type of meta-physical Buddhist-tinged self-healing regression therapy. It’s truly amazing, and has brought me and countless clients remarkable results.

So, I was sitting in a new classes, new semester, new students. In comes Irit, a bouncy adorably large woman with amazing energy. She’s married to Yossi, who volunteered at our kids’ school. Fast forward two months later…. She asks me how I’m doing with the body thing one day. “What body thing?” I’m clueless, and had totally forgotten how I initially knew her years before she was the volunteer-guy’s wife. A friend suggested Irit when I told her I wanted to spoil Kobi and I for a good massage. Having never gotten one, I was nervous and called to verify some details, all of which I had totally forgotten about until she spilled it out there in the tones usually reserved for light how’s-the-weather chit chat. “You acted like a rape victim. I was sure you had experienced some severe physical abuse.” she chirped. WTF?? I was floored and stared at her numb, having zero recall of this entire issue.

How Do I Stay Happy? Soul Swinging In The Night Rain

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It tickled and danced around us. Not like the day rain. She was hell. She was too strong, too stingy, and overbearing. She was confused, stuck, searching and not finding. And I saw all these other people watching the day rain too. The doorway guy, the booth one, and that old man on the stool. Did they see what I did? Were they also hoping the rain would wash away something it did not? Or maybe it’s just a reflection of who I was with my face mashed against that faded wooden frame, pushing forward to feel her spray. Why am I always seeking that, that just-out-of-reach thing, that which will make me deeply happy and calm?

What am I lacking right here and now? I’m traveling the world, have no health, money, or relationship problems (besides the one I create in my mind for my own dramatic enjoyment). I do what I want, when I want. I’ve three unbelievable kids and the greatest gift in this Universe husband, and still, I gaze at the rain and feel a desperate emptiness gnawing in a silent whisper of desire.