The Most Important Lessons Our Children Teach Us

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I found an old workbook page today from Solai’s English from 6 months ago. This particular page was teaching that nouns are also an idea, “things we cannot see or touch such as bravery, beauty, or honesty.”

So, sentence number two said:

Truth and justice are two things that are highly valued.

I asked Solai if she could use ‘justice’ in a sentence:

Kittens, Motherhood, and Retarded Angel-Souls Across the Globe- Life on the Road Sighs- The Philippines

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Kitten outside. Small tiny face. Furry. Fuzzy, really. Big eyes. Sweet soul. Dahnya, my eldest, has a new goal in life. She says to me yesterday, “I will make her fat and strong before we leave here, and then she’ll have a good chance to live.” Oh. Found cat in a basket hanging over a booth in the market. No one wanted the kitten.

Watching kids play with cat, cuddle her, run to her cries, fills me with joy. Maybe they’ll learn how confusing the dependency of a child is, that desire to help, to soothe, to provide, that love that loves you right back, but still disturbs your movie/game/lunch/conversations. I’m closest to the front door so I hear even the faint cries most. I smile, “Dahnya, your baby,” and she sighs in a way I can relate to, and runs outside. Sometimes she tells me, “Can you tell her one. second. please?” and I get that too. I know, love, I know, and I love it that you are learning through the kitten.

I also love it that we played Uno today, us and our new special friend Raffy and this German backpacker we met two-doors down. I mentioned their meeting from yesterday on Facebook and wanted to share it with you.

The Reality of Family Life on the Road- Rain for the Limping Soul- Philippines

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It’s raining outside. Since twin Michele Fox from El Paso told me once that she liked the rain, I thought, “Oh, that’s an option?” for I always thought you were supposed to complain when it rained. But she liked it, so back in tenth grade I decided to love it too. I love precipitation sprinkling, misting, pounding, slanting and slapping, whirling, with dramatic booms and clashes, and pitter-pattering. I especially adore when it rains and I take the time to watch it, listen to it, converse with it. The rain always has something to say, something to wash away, something to purify. Like Gaia’s water cycle itself, the rains come to remind us nit-witted simpletons of the never-ending cleansing and washing away that happens in our bodies, minds, and souls. We’re learning every day, even if we’re stubborn and resist it.

She reminds me to stop and note that I, too, am a part of this natural world, that I too am rain.

And so, it is with great joy in my heart that I share with you that it’s raining here in MoalBoal, Philippines, and all that stuckness from the miserable Country #12 Contest post and the detailed family misery in When You and Your Family Are Falling Apart has washed away. Like the rain. We thought we were homeless again, and now we’re not; we thought we were spiraling into perpetual lostness, and now we’re not; we thought we were sick of being the nomadic family, and now we’re not. Have a seat friends. I’ll boil the water.

Dear Lilly- A Love Letter from a Father to His Daughter

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GabiKlaf.com has brought amazing people into my life. People who radiate and flow in the same frequency that I do , that we do. One such person is Pete Giargente (aka: Peter Greyson). He is just a dad, like any other dad, who is doing the best he can. This dad in particular spends a lot of time talking about his addictions, his slimy ways with women, his life choices that got him a lot of what he wanted in life and hurt many a young ladies along the way. He shares this in a love letter to his daughter Lilly, and found out that a lot of people are inspired by his story. His book, Dear Lilly, shares in angle we would have never imagined the truths that some of us women need to hear. Maybe it can bring some closure to those of us who believed sweet lies that left our hearts broken. Maybe his work can inspire other young teenage girls out there to know that we all seek love, being seen, being touched, feeling special, and unfortunately, even those with the sweet eyes and tender fingers and smile, can lie to get what he wants. And broken hearts (or worse)  don’t happen to someone else, but to us.

Six Ways To Regain Sanity When You and Your Family Are Falling Apart

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It started out as an innocent enough walk through town. Objective: To obtain food. And what happened was I followed my family through those sweltering alley ways and booths holding everyone’s stuff until I felt like a trash can/closet/servant, and walking next to kids who rambled on incessantly without even a second for me to hold a thought of my own, and constant complaints and “but I wanted to walk next to Mommy” and me feeling that my opinion and desire to find a place with a salad were totally insignificant. It was a very personal inferno of hell, a traumatic stuckness that begged for some wild insane outburst to relieve me from myself. But no. I just walked on, one foot in front of the other, ‘anicca’ing the entire way.

‘Anicca’ing is my superimposed Buddhist verb-i-zation of nouns and adjectives to make things make sense for me. ‘Anicca,’ now coincidentally tattooed on my husband’s right shoulder, is the Pali word for ‘impermanence.’ It means that all passes, changes, flows, comes and goes, and for me, it helps me learn (slowly) that there’s no reason to get all hung up on this or that really painful or really tempting issue for it will all change anyhow. So, when things get tough, I fall down, I get depressed and desperate, I lose myself in temptation, I annica it, and, somehow, it passes, and life carries on. The frequency, duration, and intensity of my fall-outs have significantly lessened. Significantly, and how this happens, I’d like to share with you: Six Ways To Regain Sanity When You and Your Family Are Falling Apart

When Your Child Pushes On Every Button- Be That Strong, Wise, Clear Leader [Video]

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When You Want To Kill Your Child, But You’re Too Busy Being Grateful

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Child is pushing on every single button I have. Complaining, talking back, whining, “Why did she get that and I didn’t,” and “It’s not fair,” and pre-hormonal outbreaks of “I hate you!” slamming doors and dramatic crying fits. And I’m out of breath. Literally. I. Cannot.Breathe. I simple cannot.

My heart it pounding into my throat as I debate which would bring me more immediate joy- violently attacking child or eating fifteen snickers bars. Both I consider both an inch more than slightly irrational, though in my current state of mind it’s not blazingly clear to me which would be worse. It should be. My mind knows. So does my heart. But these buttons, these neurons of painful unresolved issues firing like hot flashed dog-in-heat, they don’t speak the language I’ve trained myself to adhere to. They don’t get anicca, and light and energy healing. They don’t speak that tongue.

Gently Scooping Up Spiderwebs-

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I’d like to share with you a very personal article from about 6+ years ago. I wrote it to share, and never did. And today, randomly found it, in all lower-case letters, on the parenting blog I used to run called The Gift of Parenting. So, enjoy and please comment, for I believe this article touches upon our beautiful neurotic, illogical selves in the rawest form. Enjoy!

Need to Destroy- Exhausted Mom Faces Her Violent Son

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Today my eldest Dahnya and I were looking at picture of this huge, amazing ice scripture. I think it was an iceberg actually that this team of sculptures were working off of. It was the face of a woman, smiling, wind blowing her hair. Truly phenomenal piece of art. Size of a mountain. The sculptures looks like toy play figures around her.

My son Orazi walks in and looks over our shoulder. He stares at the picture for a minute and, as he turns away, he says aloud, ‘I wonder how you could destroy it?”

Mom Fighting For Down Syndrome Daughter After Heart Surgery and Cancer With A Loving Spirit

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And I think I’ve got it bad, right? Oh my, should I meditate in my room at The Led Zephyr or jog on the Sihanoukville, Cambodia beach today? Should I write another inspirational post about the meaning of life or should I sit back and read for three hours? Or maybe I should take a nap? Should I freak out at my daughter for throwing the green pencil stub into her brother’s forehead? Tough, I know.

And then there is Jerusalem, a beautiful Mexican woman I met in Houston, Texas while we swung through  for two weeks between South America and South East Asia. Jerusalem did not want to be interviewed but her story is too powerful not to share. She’s facing a tough, really tough reality. Her daughter is not well, they don’t have any money, and still, still, still she finds the effort to go exercise, the time to think of others, and the money (God knows from where) to share a deep token of love with a new friend (me!).

I’m too honored for words. I think you’ll enjoy the interview.