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What To Do When “I Statements” Don’t Work

Written by Gabi on . Posted in Parenting and Family Relations

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I Statements” are pure magic. They teach us, reprogram us to speak to our children in a new way. “I Statements” teach us to be logical, clear, and non-aggressive in our requests. But, alas! every magic has its limitations. “I Statements” if used improperly will not bring the results you deserve. Read these three most common parent complaints to be sure you are using them to help, not harm, your family communication.

Parent Complaint #1

“It’s so fake! I sound like a robot! I can’t talk this way!”

Of course it’s fake.  We are used to yelling, screaming, blaming, and losing control. Suddenly, limiting our monologue to four bullet points is very awkward. That is the point. We want to create a new dynamic of speech between you and your children: one that works respectfully and effectively.