In order to make your family meetings effective, there a few imperative rules that you must adhere to.
1- Everyone feels safe.
All members of the family must feel un-threatened and safe to express their feelings. If your family meeting becomes the allowed place to emotionally beat up each other, your family will not want to come. No one is allowed to freak out, lose control, beat up on, or blame each other aggressively. All family members must work together to be sure that everyone feels safe to be at the meeting. If someone is expressing his anger in a way that you feel borders on aggressive, firmly ask the person to keep talking, but to change their tone or their words so as not to attack the other.