The Space To Be A Woman- A Man Strong Enough To Handle the Feminine Power In Full Force

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Just got this in Facebook and by the beating of my heart and all that it enlightened in me, I knew there were stories unfolding. Deep ones. Here’s the text that comes with it. Thank you What Evolved Women Want .Thank you for the inspirational art, the words, and the energy that reminds us what love, purpose, sex, and a real relationship is all about.  I believe there is so much, so much, so much to learn here.

THE SPACE TO BE A WOMAN

All women cry, all women rage and all women desire to be ravished.

The average man fears this because they’re things he can’t ‘fix’ or ‘handle’.

“Stop crying!” “Calm down!” “You’re such a freak!” are the last words of the man who lacks the ability to hold the space for the full raw feminine power in a woman.

It takes a strong man to allow her to feel safe enough to be all woman.

He’s a man who is steadfast in the face danger, moved to tears by tragedy and beauty, and more than enough to relish her uninhibited expressions of sensuality – the kind of man who faces down adversity and doesn’t abandon her when she needs him most.

Unlike the Bad Boy, he doesn’t change from macho workaholic to a frightened boy, too scared to get out of bed when challenges appear.

When a man’s that unstable she lives in a constant state of fear, terrified because there’s no stability or security. (“What if he actually gives up / quits his job / runs away / or leaves me alone with the kids?”)

And unlike the Nice Guy she doesn’t have to worry about coaxing him to head out to take on the world and supporting him as he develops genuine courage.

The test is, when she’s at her most raw and fully feminine – can he embrace her spirit or does he retreat in fear and confusion when she’s fully open?

Wait for the man who has the capacity to remain with you whether you need to cry, rage, or desire to be ravished without thinking.

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Graham R White

 

I’ve spent the last hour reading this Facebook page. An hour with my heart beating, feeling deep truths stirred and touched by a rawness that’s been quiet. Here’s my comment to this post:

i love the photo. sooooo good. and the idea of a raw woman and a man powerful enough to be in that space. wow. what a joy and blessing that Kobi Klaf is that strong. I don’t know how many men can handle my rawness with such grace and good humor.

And then, I read for this next hour and realize there is so much in me to add, to reflect, to think, to know. Too much to cognitively share. I do know this: At almost 20 years together, I realize that the hot 23 year old I feel in love with is gone. Alas, he won’t be back. But, the man, the gentle man, the man who makes me laugh, the man who can handle my rawness, who loves me also (or maybe especially when) I fall apart, who will do anything to make me happy, anything. This is the man I want beside me for life. Anything else would make a great Hollywood movie, but not my life. I love my man. Thank you for the absolute, singular, best, most light-filled blessing the Universe could ever bring me.

I could babble away for hours on this one. And so, I’m going. Too much gushing out. Not sure what to share, what to hold close to my heart, where to say ‘Girls, if that’s not it, walk out,’ and where to say, ‘Hold on cuz this is your reality and this is what you must learn from right now’. I don’t think I’ve ever left you without making that closing point, without some closure to say ‘and this is what I feel’ but I can’t. I have distractions here in the room with me, who are talking to me every second and who I don’t want to push away to write. I have distractions within me as I try to formulate what is my ‘take home’ message and I realize, that like in therapy, “I don’t know” is a lovely place. I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know.

 

Gabi

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Comments (6)

  • Mikaela

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    Wow, this is beautiful, and slightly terrifying. I think I am in need of some serious soul searching after reading this.

    This does however solidify in my mind the the men in my past are exactly where they are supposed to be.

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    • Gabi

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      go girl! What a joy to see you on both sites, commenting, sharing, discussing with me. I love that conversation. ‘Go girl’ is because they are in your past, cuz they just weren’t ready for your awesomeness, and you are. ‘Beautiful and terrifying’ is such a lovely combination. May I use it? May your soul searching go well love. You are young. The road is long. I’m still searching and will until the day I die. Enjoy the ride dear. I’d be honored to be around for some of it! Gabi

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  • Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com

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    Hi Gabi…I followed you back from your post on my site when I saw the title of this one…I appreciate some of the thoughts (from a man’s perspective) but I have to be honest–it is your words that I resonate with the most. I’ve never thought of my relationship as a “hot” Hollywood movie like the photo above, but as you say, the man in my life is “the gentle man, the man who makes me laugh, the man who can handle my rawness, who loves me also (or maybe especially when) I fall apart, who will do anything to make me happy, anything. This is the man I want beside me for life.” And I so agree that his presence in my life is also as you say, “the absolute, singular, best, most light-filled blessing the Universe could ever bring me.” Maybe I see our 36 year relationship different than the one described by “What Evolved Women Want” because honestly when we got together so long ago I wasn’t very evolved. The best thing of all is that we have grown and evolved together. If I was to pass on advice to other young women I think I would include that–find someone that wants to grow and evolve with you and “ride” will be a good one no matter what happens….~Kathy

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    • Gabi

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      Kathy, What a joy to discuss these things with you. It’s what I always wanted in my life, people who I can talk to about all the ‘evolutions’ that take place before and within me and have meaningful inspirational discussions around it. That’s why I create Clean Your Soul groups everywhere I go, so that I have with whom to bounce off the light that I want within me. Thank you friend. Yes, ‘the male thoughts’ (you are so right!) were a great tool to help me realize that i don’t need to apologize for all that unleashed emotional outbursts within me. that i a woman and that that feminine energy, unleashed requires a man strong enough to contain that, which is what i have right now. i love the two quotes that you quoted for those are my greatest truths. never had the hollywood love either but sometimes my thoughts wander….. 36 years together. omg. i’m honored and so touched for you. kobi and i will celebrate 20 years together this january. god, i was not evolved either when we started out. actually, kobi and both agree (and excuse my french ) but that we were both fucked up souls that needed to be saved, and we did. what a ride. thank you dear kathy. i loooooooove talking about this with you. i think this will inspire another post dear. thank you. gabi

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  • Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com

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    Hi Gabi…it’s impossible to think of you and Kobi as being fucked up when you were so young! That’s when you are supposed to do wild and silly and even stupid things–I definitely believe that the only mistake is the one you don’t learn from so apparently you did something right. Thom and I made a lot of silly mistakes before we got together–but we had messed around enough to know that if we couldn’t make it with each other then there was NO ONE out there that could make it better for either of us. We’ve definitely had some ups and downs on the path–but like I said before we both shared an adventurous spirit and a desire to GROW and that has always kept us looking forward and optimistic. From what I can tell you and Kobi are even MORE adventurous than us–and as long as you keep growing together then the best is still to come. OH….and it’s such a GREAT idea to do your groups as you go along because that is one thing that I do miss….having like-minded people around to talk about the deepest ideas and subjects. Thom and I’ve talked about doing SMART groups but it just hasn’t seemed like the right time yet….who knows? Maybe this year….BUT in a completely different direction…have you been to Bali? We are considering that for our next trip….I didnt’ see anything on your sight about it but one of these days I might pick your brain about some of the choices out there. Anyway, lovely to “chat” 🙂 ~Kathy

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  • Borisnadenough

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    I love women and no matter how they get , I go with it. Some get angry then physical then, they need controlling. I give them that too. The reaction I get from them is almost pure love and respect in return.

    I’m a man.

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